Tag: préférence


I love the idea of being with another girl, but ...

Hi :) I'm so confused. I've always had crushes on boys (on their personalities, not appearances), and now men, but when I get into a sexual situation with them, I just don't even want to touch them, and all I can think is 'how absurd'. With the few boyfriends I've had, once I've managed to 'get' them, I lose all interest. In contrast, I love the idea of being with another woman. I love everything to do with it - the emotional connection in particular. I get all tingly when I read lesbian love stories, and I feel deep down that that is what I want. But I haven't had crushes on women like I have with men. I think I may have been in love with a girl because I couldn't stop thinking about her for months, and I wanted to be around her more than anything else in the world. I wanted to kiss her and do everything else, too, but before anything could happen between us, life intervened. I'm worried that I love the idea of lesbian love so much that I'm just convincing myself that I might be bisexual of lesbian. I know that I'm attracted to personality rather than appearance, but I don't know what to think. Please please help.


I’m afraid to come out and be rejected. Help ...

Hi, I'm a freshman at university and recently I've begun to have feelings for other girls. I've known for a while now that I am not exclusively attracted to guys, however, now I feel like I'm only attracted to girls. This is a problem for two main reasons. One, I am not out and I risk loosing my family by coming out. Two, I don't know what the consequences of coming out will be. In addition, I recently met a girl who goes to the same university and I feel as though we have chemistry. Yet, I don't want to take the chance because I fear others will find out, and also, I fear being rejected. Is there any way for me to tell her how I feel, or are there any signs that I should look out for to see if she might be interested. – Lee