Tag: Labels


Can you be lesbian without a strong attraction towards anyone ...

Can you be lesbian without a strong attraction towards anyone yet? I’ve never really felt a strong attraction towards or had a crush on anyone of either gender yet. I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a while, and i started to think i might be a lesbian. This has lead me to the question, do i need to have felt a strong attraction or had a crush on a girl to be a lesbian? And does it really matter anyway? Many thanks, Samantha


I have tried out different labels, asexual, queer, lesbian, straight ...

Hey, so ive always sort of felt i was bisexual. since probably around 8, however recently (probably like 13) i realized that thats not true. i feel uncomfortable around men, im not sure if its just like a phobia or something to do with my dad (as i never knew him) the idea of kissing or intimately touching a man makes me extremely uncomfortable, ive had boyfriends in the past and being physically close to them is really really hard for me. even emotionally i dont know how to let them in, im worried it will always be this way as ive tried so many things and its all yet to work. i have tried out different labels, asexual, queer, lesbian, straight and nothing seems to fit right. for a little while asexual is what i went with even though i didnt think it fit right, because im not sexually attracted to anyone. being close to girls has always been easier for me, ive even kissed a few, hugging hand holding etc etc just works better but im not sure if its because i dont like females or because i do. it all just sort of blurs together and i never know what im feeling. i grew up in a home that wasnt very affectionate and so i was thinking maybe that had something to do with it? my parents didnt like eachother that much and fought a lot and again, i thought that mightve been a reason as to why i cant make meaningful relationships. i dont know really maybe this was a bad idea but if there was anything you could help me with, or anything you could like clarify for me it would be great. please get back to me :). Lala


I have one big question: am I gay?

I have one big question: Am I gay? I enjoy going into the men's underwear section of the store and I get an erection when I go to it. I never get an erection because of women. Last night me and my family went to a restaurant. One of the waiters there was so sexy. I couldn't help but think of his penis and butt. I wanted to perform oral on him. I'm gay or aren't I.



Should I be straight forward and tell my new friends ...

I "came out" to the school that I am currently going to and to my mother; but I am moving and now I don't know if I should be straight foward and tell the new people at the new school that I am bisexual. What do you think I should do? Also, I have accepted that I am at least bisexual, but lately I have been feeling that I might be more than just that. Lately, I have been really wondering whether or not I might be lesbian. I still have some feelings for guys, but I'm still not sure. Do you think that I may be lesbian, or do you think it's something else? Like maybe just a faze or something.