Is my husband gay or bi? My friends have always told me he is gay (including gay friends). When we started dating he never stopped talking about his gay friends. During the relationship he would always tell me how gay men were looking at him at the gym. He flirts with gay men at work and tells me it's only joking. He can spot a gay man a mile away and always looks at him. He knows all the gay sayings etc. He likes anal touching and anal sex with me. But he loves my body (boobs and all). I am so confused, please help. Once he told me he had been gay before we met and then said he was only joking. Do you think he is gay or bi. He said other gay men said he is attractive because he dresses well and looks after his appearance.