Tag: identity




I get more excited about women, but would prefer to ...

About a year ago, I began to be attracted to gay men, in looks and stereotypical personalities, and watching them "do stuff" turns me on. I became sort of obsessed with the gay community and started watching logo, reading gay books, etc, and standing up for gay rights whenever it's mentioned. I thought I was a little weird, but still considered myself straight, just something of a "fag-hag". But, lately, I've found myself more attracted to women than guys. When I think of women, I tend to get more excited than I do with men, but I like the idea of a bf more than a gf. I feel like a total hypocrite saying this, but I'm terrified of the thought that I might be a lesbian. I've always hidden my "gay obsession" from my dad because I know how he'd react, but my mom knows and she asked me once if I was a lesbian and I gave her a definite "no". I feel like I'd be betraying her if I decided I was. I'm very shy and have never had a boyfriend, crush, or male friend since I was 7. What do (...)



I never hated my gender, but I’ve never really liked ...

Hello, I'm a sixteen year old girl. I recently have started looking at Youtube videos of FTM people and have been suddenly entranced. I don't have the 'always liked boys stuff' stories that they have, but when I was younger I was outgoing and happy. I wore dresses and played with dolls, but I played sports and got the dresses dirty, and played 'zombies' with my headless Barbies. Then as I got older I started to retreat within myself. I talked a lot less and felt more and more uncomfortable with who I was. I never hated my gender, but I've never really liked who I was, I felt I should be different. Now I'm so confused. I do have a tendency to randomly give myself identities, trying to find myself. But I've never felt so confused or scared like this, and definitely never wanted to talk about it. I don't know what to do and I desperately need someone to understand. I know this road is so much harder and I am really scared. Any help would be appreciated.


I am attracted to men sexually, but I go out ...

I have fantasies about men and maturbate while thinking about men on my cross-country team. And I also masturbate while thinking about pictures of naked men I can find on the computer. And I had my penis sucked by one male and I sucked his penis as well. But right after I'm done with everything I still don't lose interest in men. But I do not date men. I only date women. I am attracted to women in terms of going out with them but not sexually. What does this make me? Should I tell the men I want to have sex with the most how I feel or just keep it a secret? Should I ask them to have sex? I am just unsure now because I am attracted to them for different reasons.


I don’t want to be considered a boy or a ...

I would not like to be considered a boy or a girl. I am not sexually attracted to just boys or just girls, in fact neither. I feel as though physical attraction can turn me on and I do enjoy "sex" (or in my case masturbation). However I feel confused as to what this exactly means. I don't feel as though I should be judged upon my sex. I feel comfort in feeling as though I fit into a group but right now I'm more or less just outside any group circles. I've searched for a word to describe me to others, instead of having to say this every time. So what exactly am I? I've never been sexually attracted to male or female parts. Because I am still a virgin, people think this is just a phase or I haven't experienced life enough to know but I know this is who I am, its just all so confusing! I just wish I could scream out at the top of my lungs exactly who I am, but what am I?



I enjoy seeing girls having sex, but I don’t want ...

I am a straight girl. I always want to look at pornography on the Internet. I know I shouldn't, but I can't help it. I look at a girl and a guy have sex, but I watch more videos of girls having sex with other girl. I know I am straight, but I need someone to tell me if I am straight. I can't be gay/lesbian/bi and be a Pentecostal (that's my religion). I need someone to tell me I am straight and I am doing my best to stop looking at pornography. I love the Lord and He will help me understand. I would never kiss or have sex with another girl, but I enjoy seeing other girls have sex. I don't like that feeling at all! What should I do?


I am a 12-year-old who does not want to be ...

Hi. I am a 12-year-old female that does not want to be female, but is not yet aware of any sexual attractions. I realize I'm a bit young, but this has been troubling me for 2 years now, ever since I got my first period. There is this boy at school that I might like, but I'm not really sure, and I don't really think I am in love with him for some reason. But, I have also found that when I think of having a relationship with someone, I see myself as a man with a woman. I have told my parents that I believe myself to be a transsexual. I am beginning to have suicidal thoughts, and I want to stop them before they get to a extremely serious stage. I wanted to know if there are any support groups in California, and if you can provide any help as to how I can survive like this. I really need help before I try to hurt myself, because right now, that seems the only answer, but I know it's not what I'm supposed to do. Please help me.


I am bisexual and I want to know if I ...

Well, I am a Bisexual male , which is very rare as I have realized. There are bisexual females at my school, but I am a guy and they don't know what I endure everyday (I also don't know them personally). My friends give me a hard time about it, they argue with me sometimes and make "Bi Jokes". I want to be openly Bi, but it won't be easy since I am 13 and in middle school. I have a single parent (my mother) who tells me I better not ever come out saying I am gay. When I watch Tila Tequila (a bisexual) she calls her a freak. I am going to tell a lot of people when I get back to school (besides the other 9 who already know). This little secret has spread around the school and I will confirm this. I need to know what you think!



I am straight, but I have feelings for a girl

A lot of the guys at my work always flirt with me and ask me for my number and want to hangout, but I'm never interested in them because I am too busy focusing on this girl at work that might be bisexual. I'm straight and I never felt like this towards a girl until I met her. All I do is daydream about her. We talk a lot at work. A lot of people think she is bisexual and she is always making eye contact with me from across the room and turning away with a smile if I catch her, and I do the same thing. She also touches me from behind and makes me super nervous... But she has been talking about her ex for a while who is a guy so I'm so confused about whether she is bi and what to do... I really want to know if she's into me, but if she's not, that will make both of us very uncomfortable and embarrassed at work, especially because this is the only girl I have ever had feelings like this for... Please help! Thanks.