Tag: Homophobia


So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do ...

I have questioned my sexuality basically my entire life. I have always felt more attracted to women than men. But always dated men because it was considered "normal". My first kiss ever, was with a girl. My first sexual experience was with a girl. My best friend in middle school and I messed around a lot and spent just about every day with her. But when she finally wrote me a letter telling me how she felt towards me and that she wanted to be more than just my friend, It pissed me off. I was really mean to her and just stopped being friends with her altogether. For years, off and on I messed around with another one of my friends but convinced myself that we were just having fun. And Everytime she tried to make it more official, It would irritate me. Both of us, were off and on in relationships with men. Anytime I've been in a relationship with a guy, I've always struggled with letting go of the "gay thoughts". I'd always choose spending time around females than I would my boyfriend/partner. I've always been more comfortable around females than men. Everytime I was in a straight relationship with a guy, I always felt like I couldn't fully be myself. It wasn't until I finally decided to stop being in a straight relationship and started seeing a female. She was/is so pretty and funny and that was the first time in my entire life where I felt genuinely happy and completely myself. Being in straight relationships with men, It was very rare that I ever made the first move but being with her was completely different. I wanted to kiss her, hold her hand, literally just be next to her. But the thought of coming all the out was literally terrifying. I don't know why. I wanted to commit and ask her to be my girlfriend soo bad but I did the exact opposite. All the thoughts like, what Is my life going to look like being in a relationship with a female, what if this is just a phase for her, how are both of our kids gonna react, there was so many questions that spiked my anxiety to the point that I just ghosted her and went back to seeing men and made excuses and was kinda mean to her. I've always been more okay with public relationships with men but I struggled with them privately, being with a female is opposite. So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do I become more comfortable with it? K.O.





Our parents caught us kissing and now I have to ...

I've always been a bit of a tomboy, but my parents would never let me do the things I wanted- the only sports they would let me play were the 'girly' ones- figure skating, ringette, soccer, cheerleading, ballet, gymnastics, etc. I guess maybe they figured something out about me at five that it took me years to realize: I'm gay. (My hands are shaking just typing that) I have a girlfriend, the most beautiful, awesome, smart, funny girl in the world. I love her. Nobody knew about us until yesterday, when her mother caught us kissing when we thought nobody was home. We're no longer allowed to see each other and my parents are sending me to Catholic school, because apparently 'this would never have happened in a Catholic school'. They're really, really, really angry. I'm- so many things. I'm terrified, I'm scared, I'm angry, I'm confused, and I'm really depressed. I just want to die, or run away from home and leave this hick town forever. I don't know what to do. Please help.


I am 18 and my 16 years old girlfriend came ...

I saw a question similar to this but want to ask for advice in my situation. So, I've been going out with Erika, my girlfriend, for almost 8 months. It's not my first long-term relationship but it is for her--it's her first lesbian relationship. She wanted to come out to her family and I told her I'd support her. Once her family found out though, well, her mom hasn't stopped crying. And I know she blamed me because I "converted" her in her eyes, and I could see why she would feel disrespected, considering I've slept over etc. I texted her mom and told her I was sorry. She told me that I had given a horrible pain to her family and to stay away from her family because Erika was confused and that since she is 16 and I'm 18, an adult, I should just stay away. My gf says her mom would never sue me but I'm scared, our moms work at the same school. The last thing I want to do is stay away from Erika, though. So what do I do?


I am gay and I am criticized in my country ...

Hello , I'm a gay guy from Tunisia and I have some problems being gay! A lot of people even at school criticize the way I talk and walk and they're staring at me all the time. Besides,I have sexual urges and I want to have sex but I can't find sex partners to do it so I gave up and I became addicted to masturbation and gay porn movies. In my country, Tunisia, even gay and sexual websites are censored ! Sometimes , I think of committing suicide and it will be over ... What should I do and can I contact any organizations abroad to help me travel and live abroad legally? I have heard about this gay guy who left Tunisia to the U.S in 2003 after getting help from a L.G.B.T organisation. Please I need your help!



Article – Gay teens coming out: it’s talked about more, ...

It was a black, stretch-velvet dress that outed Shawn Fowler at the age of 14. Hours earlier, the sexy number had been tucked secretly away in his bedroom - along with a wig, lipstick and mascara. Yet there was his sister, sashaying through his grandparents' house, only she was donning the frock.


Is there no way to give up homosexuality?

I am gay, but I don't want to be because my family hates gay people... I figure I could be gay for a long time now but I have been living in denial all my life, and it has taken my life away. I am always depressed and I used to cut myself, though I don't do that anymore. I am always angry at my parents, and I do whatever it takes just to make friends. I've already asked the "what if i turned out gay" question to my mom and stepdad, and both said that it wouldn't be a good thing for me to be gay. They said it was unnatural for two men to be together. Unfortunately I feel the same way. Is there no way to give up homosexuality? Of note, if it is a treatment that involves Jesus, I am not interested. I don't believe in "God" or "Jesus Christ" in any way, shape, or form. If there is truly no treatment, then I guess the guilt will get to me eventually.


I am a teacher and students use homophobic language. What ...

I teach mathematics at a suburban Toronto area vocational school. Virtually all of the students at the school have learning disabilities, behavioural issues, or some other reason for NOT attending a "regular" school. Many of the students are immature / confused / angry. For the most part, these students do not make bigoted remarks regarding ethnicity or religion. However, "fag" and "gay" seem to be common put downs - used as synonyms for stupid or unpleasant. Occasionally, I will stop the lesson and try this approach: "You wouldn't attack people based on their skin colour or religion, so why are you offending people based on sexual orientation?”. I have also ejected students from the classroom for persistent homophobic language. This is a workplace school, so I have also pointed out that a boss / co-worker may be gay / lesbian or have friends / family who are. They may severely mess up their career by being bigoted, rude and homophobic. Any better approach?



Am I bisexual or bi-curious ? And how could I ...

am extremely confused right now. For a long time, I had lots of crushes on guys, and even one the beginnings of dating one guy. I was SURE I was 100% heterosexual, but now I'm not so positive. There is a girl in one of my college courses that I have developed feelings for. Not only that, but I have also begun to think of OTHER girls as attractive. Am I Bisexual? Bi-curious? I'm fairly certain I could be able to "come out" to my family if so, but I don't want to tell them I'm something I'm not! If I am Bisexual or Bi-curious, the person I'd love to tell is my roommate, but she believes Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals are posessed by demons. I have read several of your other answers to other questions, and it seems you know a lot about these issues. Do you know of any solution to my problems, both with my roommate and my (for lack of a better word) crush? Please help!!!