Tag: gender


I’m having a bit of a gender crisis right now ...

I'm having a bit of a gender crisis right now. I use he/they pronouns, as they are what I identify with most, but I present female (wearing dresses, skirts, makeup etc.). I'm also comfortable with certain female terms (such as fangirl, queen, wife) but not others (specifically girlfriend or being referred to collectively as 'girls'). I'm AFAB and I'm wondering if there's a term for this? (If it is relevant, I believe I am attracted to all genders at varying degrees)


I’ve been struggling with my gender identity… Is the want ...

I've been struggling with my gender identity for the past couple of months, though I feel like this has been an ongoing thing I never noticed until now. Every spare moment I have I'm questioning who I am, who I want to be, and who I want to be perceived as. The main issue is that I don't feel comfortable being seen as a girl anymore. I've tried using some different pronouns to see how I felt, and it was nice for a bit, but I realized there was still something missing. I think I'm still in a lot of denial over how what's missing is the fact that I want to be perceived as a boy, but I feel like I can't have that, because physically, it's logical that I'm not one. Plus, I'm scared of even considering transitioning, it feels like a huge step that I don't know if I'll ever be ready for. While most of the time I'm yearning to be a guy, there are a few times where I feel okay as a girl. It's just so confusing, and I don't want to stick with something and then regret it later. I also feel like, is the want to be a man a fetishization thing? Because when I see healthy and happy male relationships in books or shows, I feel a sense of happiness from it and can relate to it to an extent. Does that mean these feelings of dysphoria are based on that? Because while it's one thing to put yourself in another character's shoes, I feel like there's a bit more to these feelings than that. Any insight would be really appreciated! Bao




What if I stay in this relationship for the rest ...

I've been in a relationship with a queer female person for a year now. I've never been in any other relationship. We're in a very happy and healthy relationship together. But, I'm worried about the future. What if I stay in this relationship for the rest of my life, and never have any experiences with other people, or with people of other genders? I feel badly for thinking this way, but the both of us starting CEGEP has me thinking of my future. My partner and I talk about everything, but I don't want her to feel like I don't want to be with her by telling her this. Though they're very supportive of my queerness, my parents might like the idea of me "trying a relationship with a boy too", so I feel like they aren't the best people to ask. And I have no queer adults in my life to look up to who. I don't know what I should do or who I should talk to.





I imagine myself as a lesbian – am I transsexual?

Hey, I'm  a 15 year old male and I'm really confused. I have always considered myself a normal boy, as a kid I liked playing with action figures and plastic army men. I have always been moderately masculine, and I'm comfortable with my gender. I've never had any homosexual thoughts. However, when I fantasize, nothing is as pleasuring to me as imagining that I am a lesbian, usually the one being dominated. I do get aroused by boy/girl fantasies (As long as I'm the boy, rather than some stranger). I don't have any desire to dress in womens clothing, but I did once when I was a kid. I'm comfortable with my body. The only problem is that I fantasize about being a lesbian. Am I transsexual? Thanks for the help. P.S Holy crap is there something wrong with the validation code? It took my like 30 tries to get it right.


Age gap and bisexuality

I'm feeling confused. I have a crush on a guy right now, but he's unattainable. A few months back I had a crush on a girl. This was the first time I felt this way and it was a very strong crush. I wished I could have pursued that, but she's my friend and I knew she wouldn't feel the same way as I felt toward her. Anyway, I don't know who I'm attracted to anymore. I'm not going to label myself just yet, which leaves me in a state of not really knowing a large part of myself. I don't like that. That's not my only problem. I wish to be in a relationship again. I miss having a boyfriend there for me. I miss being able to "touch" him even if it's a simple hug. I would really like that, but the thing is I'm not attracted to anyone my age, girl or guy. I like one person, as I've stated before, but he's a teacher. Sometimes I feel he's the only thing keeping me on the "home team". I don't care if I turn out to be Bisexual, Lesbian or whatever I just want to know: What do I do now?


Why do I find men SO physically unappealing?

I am soon to be 45 and I am self-identified as a lesbian. The reason I have decided that I am a lesbian is because I don't like male biology---from the daily smegma accumulations, to the viscuous, invasive fluids, hard bodies, to the rather cold and analytical manner of relating to others which is governed by testosterone.. Don't get me wrong. I don't hate men. I just can't embrace our differences to like them romantically. My question is, and if you could give this answer more insight than you think I am asking for....; If you could tell me why heterosexual women like these (in my estimation) unappealing attributes.



My boyfriend wants to change gender, and I am uncomfortable ...

I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 24. He wants to change gender and he knows I'm bisexual. I tried to support him but I'm uncomfortable with this. Also, he was in a long-distance relationship and I'm pretty sure that he didn't break-up with this girl, because she is still sending him gifts and love messages. He knows I am in love with him and I'm scared he's using me. He has a lot of people who want to be with him and he never tells them that he has a girlfriend.