At 63 I am still confused and miserable. I love women but have never had a full-on relationship with one. I want to know if I can be a part of a bi- or lesbian community that values fidelity? All the bi\'s that I\'ve met were interested in threesomes and I am definitely not. Can I come out at 63 and not lose all my friends? I am too old to start over and yet... I want the love of a woman. What should I do? Do I try to get accepted in the glbt community in my town? I used to be before I married my last husband. I don\'t want to be isolated or shut off from any part of the world. I should have gone through this in adolescence. Why I didn\'t I don\'t know. I had a lesbian friend but she didn\'t turn me on, she was butch. I like feminine women. I am in an agony of indecision. I feel like at my age I must decide and stick to it. Thank you for your time.