Tag: feelings


It’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label ...

Are my feelings normal? What should I do? I don’t know if I can stand these feelings. I’m struggling a lot with my sexual orientation in recent years. Till 2 years ago, I found myself attracted to boys in my class, constantly trying to catch a glimpse of their butts or bulge. I also enjoyed gay porn, and loved looking at pictures of men in underwear. However, over the year, I began to look at straight porn, often in form of animations. My sexual feelings also changes, as I find myself aroused from watching straight porn. In fact, I suddenly find myself less attracted to guys, even though romantically, I still can’t imagine myself with a girl. Swimsuit models often give me semi-erection or outright hard on, while gay porn becomes dissatisfying. Though I usually have gay sexual fantasy, I sometimes imagine being a hot girl having sex with hot guys at school. Nowadays, I develop this deep worry that my gay feeling were fake, and nothing but a phase, which deeply troubles me since I feel so much more comfortable being gay or at least bi. I began to pay attention to how I conduct myself to see if I was “too straight” or “too gay”, trying to match my internal feelings. Contact with guys doesn’t seem to turn me on like it used to, even if I find them attractive. When I’m at my worst, I sometimes focusing excessively on gay guys and gay porn, trying to masturbate to them to confirm my emotions. Yet, I often ended up watching straight porn, and becoming more aroused by them. After each straight masturbation session, I feel bad for enjoying them - a feeling I never had with gay porn. Even when I tried quitting porn for an extensive period (usually a week or more), I find myself in the same situation. At this point, I don’t even know what to do anymore: I tried accepting my feelings, but my hetero side just doesn’t feel right. At the same time, it’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label as this point, seeing that it doesn’t reflect how my attraction is so confusing.



I am really attracted to a guy, but I am ...

I have become very attracted to a guy friend who is also a fellow university student in the same graduate program I am in. I think about him constantly and feel so at ease with him. I have feelings that I cannot explain when I am close to him. I do not know if I am gay or bisexual. I want to tell him but do not know how he would react. I think he would react well but I am so unsure. It keeps me awake at night, what should I do?



I want to tell my friend how I feel about ...

Hi, I'm Sarah, Im 15 Years Old And Bisexual. I Want To Tell My Friend How I Feel about Her But I am Scared That She'll Make A Joke Out Of It And Tell Everyone. I've Tried Just Sitting And Talking To Her But Whenever I'm about To Say It I Freak Out And Change The Subject. Please Help Me Tell Her.


Am I bisexual or bi-curious ? And how could I ...

am extremely confused right now. For a long time, I had lots of crushes on guys, and even one the beginnings of dating one guy. I was SURE I was 100% heterosexual, but now I'm not so positive. There is a girl in one of my college courses that I have developed feelings for. Not only that, but I have also begun to think of OTHER girls as attractive. Am I Bisexual? Bi-curious? I'm fairly certain I could be able to "come out" to my family if so, but I don't want to tell them I'm something I'm not! If I am Bisexual or Bi-curious, the person I'd love to tell is my roommate, but she believes Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals are posessed by demons. I have read several of your other answers to other questions, and it seems you know a lot about these issues. Do you know of any solution to my problems, both with my roommate and my (for lack of a better word) crush? Please help!!!


Was it right to explain to my kid that me ...

I just came out of the closet a couple of month's back.I have two boy's there seven and six, now the seven year old is the articulate one it's like he's been here before; I recently got into a relationship with my best friend of five year's but for my son's they know her as their aunt. So naturally, I had to explain to him that we are a couple now some people think that I shouldn't have went there but;I figure he is a new aged child he'll pick up if I don't explain to him. Did I do the right thing or was I wrong should I have waited until he was old enough to under stand?