Tag: demisexuality


I think I might be asexual or aromantic but I’m ...

I think I may be a- or demi-sexual & -romantic, but I'm not sure exactly. The way I feel is about the same for both, so as an example: I'm not sure if I've ever felt romantically attracted to anyone. I have had some experiences I might call crushes, but I really struggle to identify what is and isn't romantic attraction. I feel like it should be simple to tell but for me it's not. There are one or two instances where I've felt like I'd like to have a romantic relationship with a specific person. In general, I want to have romantic relationships, but not with specific people. I maybe think about things I'd like to do with a partner, but very rarely do I think about specific people in that way. Sexuality is maybe a little simpler to figure out? I don't feel like I'm sexually attracted to people. I'm turned on by watching porn, but that's more about the acts than the people, I think. I've never had sexual fantasies involving people I know. Actually, my sexual fantasies don't usually include me at all. But, like with romance, I do want to have sex. I know that there's a range of how asexual people feel about sex, but what I've seen doesn't usually include actively wanting sex? I don't know. I guess in summary, I think I might be demiromantic and asexual, but I still want romantic and sexual relationships. Beyond how I feel about that myself, I kind of worry that people wouldn't want those things with me- especially, a romantic relationship- if I don't feel attracted to them. Do you have any advice about how to talk to people about this, or more insight on my situation?