Tag: butch

Lesbian Butch-Femme Relationships

Dear Rachel: My question concerns the Butch/Femme relationship. I have always considered myself femme/feminine, but I don't know if this is really all there is to being femme in a butch/femme relationship. In the past my girlfriends have been either other femmes or more androgynous, but I am in the process of starting a relationship with a butch. She has very clear expectations as to how a femme should behave, and seems to assume that I should already know them (because I say I am femme). Help! I want this relationship to work, but I feel as though I don't know the ground rules for this kind of relationship. What should I do?