Tag: boyfriend


I get more excited about women, but would prefer to ...

About a year ago, I began to be attracted to gay men, in looks and stereotypical personalities, and watching them "do stuff" turns me on. I became sort of obsessed with the gay community and started watching logo, reading gay books, etc, and standing up for gay rights whenever it's mentioned. I thought I was a little weird, but still considered myself straight, just something of a "fag-hag". But, lately, I've found myself more attracted to women than guys. When I think of women, I tend to get more excited than I do with men, but I like the idea of a bf more than a gf. I feel like a total hypocrite saying this, but I'm terrified of the thought that I might be a lesbian. I've always hidden my "gay obsession" from my dad because I know how he'd react, but my mom knows and she asked me once if I was a lesbian and I gave her a definite "no". I feel like I'd be betraying her if I decided I was. I'm very shy and have never had a boyfriend, crush, or male friend since I was 7. What do (...)


My friend and i like each other but now her ...

When I moved here from California, I didn't have many friends because I was quiet and my now best friend, Victoria, was one of the first people to befriend me. Over the past few years i've been become attrcted to her as more than a friend. I had let her know and we talked about and she said that she had been having the same feelings. The problem is that I had confronted her too late. She now has a boyfriend whom she says she loves very much, and I know I should be happy for her, but everytime I get near her, her boyfriend starts getting really physical and won' even let me hug her. I want to stay friends with her, but it hurts me to be around her when he's there. And he's ALWAYS there, so I never get a second alone to talk to her. I've always liked boys, never girls, so his is really hard for me and I'm afraid if I tell her what I think of her bf, she'll be mad at me and I really don't want to lose her.


Is she slowly stealing my boyfriend’s attention from me?

So I've been been with my boyfriend for almost a year but I noticed that he started hanging out with a group of girls. One of the girls is one he used to like. At first I asked him what was up but he said nothing. After awhile i noticed that he hung out with a different girl in particular, if we are in class and he walks in, the first person he goes to is her.....then me. There was even a point where I wouldn't be able to find him and when I did, he'd be with them. I've tried not thinking anything about it but he just makes me wonder. I also think that the feelings are mutual because she always looks for him and today I was talking to a friend and I mentioned his name, she turned her head so fast, I could have sworn she got whiplash. I don't want to take his friends away from him but at the same time I want to know what the hell is up.



My boyfriend wants to change gender, and I am uncomfortable ...

I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 24. He wants to change gender and he knows I'm bisexual. I tried to support him but I'm uncomfortable with this. Also, he was in a long-distance relationship and I'm pretty sure that he didn't break-up with this girl, because she is still sending him gifts and love messages. He knows I am in love with him and I'm scared he's using me. He has a lot of people who want to be with him and he never tells them that he has a girlfriend.


I am not in the mood for sex since my ...

Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years now. We are both 21 years old. I had my daughter almost 3 and 1/2 years ago. Our sex life was great before that, then my boyfriend had sex with another girl behind my back over several months. I know he is truly sorry for what he has done. It is painful for me to have intercourse and it seems like I am never in the mood. The affair took place 3 years ago. we are finding it very hard to get back on track with this problem. I never feel in the mood for sex and seem to carry on without it fine. However I know at 21 I should not feel this way. I just wondered if you had any advice for me. Many thanks.


I think there is something wrong with my libido

I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now, and I do everything but sex with him, like I hardly ever feel horny and I don't know why. I really want to have sex with him and have done it before with him. I just want to know why I won't do it every night, and I never do anything to him, he always gives me all the pleasure and I wantto give him pleasure but I don't know what's up, so please help me!!



Is beauty important to get involved in a serious relationship?

Hello, I'm a gay guy from Tunisia who wants to have a serious boyfriend. Some people have said that I am cute, but others doubt it. I'm confused: Am I ugly or am I beautiful? Every time I'm going to meet a guy I get so worried and nervous. I imagine that he's rejecting me because of my image. When I see cute guys I envy them. Sometimes I feel ok and beautiful but most of time I don't. Is beauty so important to get a boyfriend? And how could I fight my doubts? Please help me – I'm about to lose my mind!


Should I tell my ex-boyfriend about my abortion?

My ex and I are in the process of getting back together and I don't know if I should or how to tell him I had an abortion almost 3 months to the date. We broke up around this time last year, and after 4 months of moping round, I "out of the blue" ran into an old acquaintance... I slept with him that night, and a week into January of 08 I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant(my very fist time ever), it was a shock and not to mention HOW DID THIS HAPPEN? JASON AND I WERE SO CARELESS WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER AND WITH THIS GUY I GET PREGNANT? So, I made the choice alone and got the abortion. I cried, and I regret it and at the same time I don't. It was the right choice for me. When I see cute babies, I smile and I can't wait to have my very own, but I want to wait for the right guy.


Why does my boyfriend treat me differently than his other ...

My boyfriend is awesome, but he treats me differently than all of his other girlfriends. He held their hands on the day after they have been dating, and it's been over a month and he still hasn't made a move. Does he think it would be awkward or something? I try being patient and he says that he misses me when I'm gone and puts his arm around my waist sometimes, but it just isn't the same as the way he acted with his other girlfriends. He says that he loves them and holds hands with them, but now that he dates me he doesn't hold my hand or say anything like that. Is there something wrong or is it just me being too extreme? Is he just shy?



I had an abortion for my boyfriend, and now he ...

I have been with my boyfriend for one and a half year. Recently, he has changed so much, and he's no longer the guy I once fell for. Last year, I aborted our baby because he told me that he didn't want to be tied down. After what happened, he started to refrain from making love to me by using his religion as an excuse all of a sudden so that he doesn't have to deal with the responsibility for getting me pregnant again. Now, he acts secretively as though he has someone else in his life. He used to be very loving towards me. I thought that he would appreciate & cherish me more after what happened. I even agreed not to mention anything about marriage as he has no intention to settle down. He treats me nicely when he's in the mood but he also hurts me and treats me like badly most of the time, especially when he is asking me why am I still upset over an aborted baby. Yesterday, he told me that he doesn't love me anymore. How can I make him love me again?