Tag: bisexual


So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do ...

I have questioned my sexuality basically my entire life. I have always felt more attracted to women than men. But always dated men because it was considered "normal". My first kiss ever, was with a girl. My first sexual experience was with a girl. My best friend in middle school and I messed around a lot and spent just about every day with her. But when she finally wrote me a letter telling me how she felt towards me and that she wanted to be more than just my friend, It pissed me off. I was really mean to her and just stopped being friends with her altogether. For years, off and on I messed around with another one of my friends but convinced myself that we were just having fun. And Everytime she tried to make it more official, It would irritate me. Both of us, were off and on in relationships with men. Anytime I've been in a relationship with a guy, I've always struggled with letting go of the "gay thoughts". I'd always choose spending time around females than I would my boyfriend/partner. I've always been more comfortable around females than men. Everytime I was in a straight relationship with a guy, I always felt like I couldn't fully be myself. It wasn't until I finally decided to stop being in a straight relationship and started seeing a female. She was/is so pretty and funny and that was the first time in my entire life where I felt genuinely happy and completely myself. Being in straight relationships with men, It was very rare that I ever made the first move but being with her was completely different. I wanted to kiss her, hold her hand, literally just be next to her. But the thought of coming all the out was literally terrifying. I don't know why. I wanted to commit and ask her to be my girlfriend soo bad but I did the exact opposite. All the thoughts like, what Is my life going to look like being in a relationship with a female, what if this is just a phase for her, how are both of our kids gonna react, there was so many questions that spiked my anxiety to the point that I just ghosted her and went back to seeing men and made excuses and was kinda mean to her. I've always been more okay with public relationships with men but I struggled with them privately, being with a female is opposite. So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do I become more comfortable with it? K.O.


I am 39 years old and just came out as ...

Hello, I am a 39 year old male, who just recently came out. I admit I am struggling with my new identity/lifestyle/ am struggling to continue to come out to those around (currently I just came out to those very close to me and just shut everyone else out of my life). I am looking for some support/ group to help me feel comfortable with new identity and am not entirely sure where to go for help. I found your website on line (I know it says the focus is up to age 35, but I figured I would try and write to see if you'd be able to help). Thank you in advance for any help your able to offer. Nicholas


Am I bisexual because I want a relationship with a ...

I am currently fifteen and this August turning sixteen. In the past two years or so I have started being fiscally attracted to other men and sometimes I fantasize having sex in the future with men. I think I am straight because I have always wanted to have a wife with kids and have a family but I am not fiscally attracted to women. But i still haven't been in a relationship with a girl or a boy. I am confused about my sexuality. Am I gay because I am attracted more to them and not girls. Am I bi because I want a relationship with a girl but I will be down to try with a boy. Or am I just not ready to accept what my sexuality is?



I took a molly pill and went to a club ...

Hello, im 23 year old on November 2.. I took a molly pill and went to a club where i had my first questioning on if im gay since a man looked at me from distance.. Since this day I started overthinking and checking and obsessing over guy and gay thoughts.. I dont go a minute without thinking of it and its gotten to the point where i dont want to be with girls when truly ive always been straight and loved and been atttacted to them.. my loss of desire and appeal for girls and surely ramped up my belief i really am gay.. now today im at a point where i can barely work through a shift of 8 hours so i had to adapt and open up to my close friends and tell them I might have to label myself gay for now to help cope with my anxiety.. Idk what to do but i just wish i was like before and just attracted to girls and still want to be straight and not gay.. Idk what to do but im definitely depressed and unsure of myself but everything seems like im gay..






I would like to make my coming out, but I ...

At 63 I am still confused and miserable. I love women but have never had a full-on relationship with one. I want to know if I can be a part of a bi- or lesbian community that values fidelity? All the bi\'s that I\'ve met were interested in threesomes and I am definitely not. Can I come out at 63 and not lose all my friends? I am too old to start over and yet... I want the love of a woman. What should I do? Do I try to get accepted in the glbt community in my town? I used to be before I married my last husband. I don\'t want to be isolated or shut off from any part of the world. I should have gone through this in adolescence. Why I didn\'t I don\'t know. I had a lesbian friend but she didn\'t turn me on, she was butch. I like feminine women. I am in an agony of indecision. I feel like at my age I must decide and stick to it. Thank you for your time.


I’m confused by my dreams and if they mean that ...

I am 19 year old female, and I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I do not feel attracted to neither boys nor girls, but I am fine when I see two women involved in a sex relationship. When I think about men I do not feel like beign touched by them. All this things really uptset me, because I think that it is not supossed to be like that. Since I am 15 years old I have dreams having sex with boys and girls, but I can not see their faces; and I do not like these dreams because I do not want to dream like that, and most of the time I am scared to fall slept because of it. I do not know if all these dreams and the way a feel makes me a lesbian or bi. I would like to say, that I have never been involved in a relationship with any gender. I hope you can help me understand what is going on. Do I need a therapist ? if yes, please tell me where to call to. Thank you so much



I’m scared to reveal my bisexuality

Hey I am 15 and I am in year 8 at high school I am scared to tell my friends who I am. I am actually bisexual and I really won't to tell them but I am afraid that they will look at me in different way and be disgusted at me and won't to be near me anymore and I have been hiding this for a while and I don't won't to keep it bottled up what should I do ???? =[