Tag: attraction


It’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label ...

Are my feelings normal? What should I do? I don’t know if I can stand these feelings. I’m struggling a lot with my sexual orientation in recent years. Till 2 years ago, I found myself attracted to boys in my class, constantly trying to catch a glimpse of their butts or bulge. I also enjoyed gay porn, and loved looking at pictures of men in underwear. However, over the year, I began to look at straight porn, often in form of animations. My sexual feelings also changes, as I find myself aroused from watching straight porn. In fact, I suddenly find myself less attracted to guys, even though romantically, I still can’t imagine myself with a girl. Swimsuit models often give me semi-erection or outright hard on, while gay porn becomes dissatisfying. Though I usually have gay sexual fantasy, I sometimes imagine being a hot girl having sex with hot guys at school. Nowadays, I develop this deep worry that my gay feeling were fake, and nothing but a phase, which deeply troubles me since I feel so much more comfortable being gay or at least bi. I began to pay attention to how I conduct myself to see if I was “too straight” or “too gay”, trying to match my internal feelings. Contact with guys doesn’t seem to turn me on like it used to, even if I find them attractive. When I’m at my worst, I sometimes focusing excessively on gay guys and gay porn, trying to masturbate to them to confirm my emotions. Yet, I often ended up watching straight porn, and becoming more aroused by them. After each straight masturbation session, I feel bad for enjoying them - a feeling I never had with gay porn. Even when I tried quitting porn for an extensive period (usually a week or more), I find myself in the same situation. At this point, I don’t even know what to do anymore: I tried accepting my feelings, but my hetero side just doesn’t feel right. At the same time, it’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label as this point, seeing that it doesn’t reflect how my attraction is so confusing.





Is my teacher attracted to me?

Does my teacher like me or hate me ?lesbian? I'm a girl with short boyish hair but cute lol So there is that girl (my teacher) more like she is just teaching me an extra linguistics class She is still a student around my age (I'm 20) and she has also short hair like a Korean male hair cut?? so basically this corse was only one semester, she has treated me waaay different and when I told my friends they clearly told me that she is falling for me but I really don't get it .. read this and tell me does she hate or like me 1- I'm the only girl she remember her name. 2- she doesn't look at me directly or direct any orders or questions to me (avoid me) 3-but when I get too quite she suddenly says what about you ? She suddenly as me about my opinion when her and the other girls suddenly chat.. 4- she calls my name a lot 5-she knows my number "saved it" 6-I thought she hated me because she doesn't talk to me nor look at me while giving instructions to other girls she panics when I'm there..


Is she just being nice to me? I’m sure she’s ...

Hello, i just wanted to, well explain my problem becaume i have no one really to tell - scared of hatred of rejection. Im straight, and always have been, until this girl came into year 10, and ever since i'v been confused! Shes popular, pretty and basically a bad rebel. Shes obviously straight but its just the things she sometimes do that makes me wonder, she makes me so nervous as well. Every science she walks dead close to me when theres loads of space around her, i see her sometimes watching me in that lesson too. Past english she put her hands around my waist to get past, but she wouldnt, definitely wouldnt do that to other people. i've hardly ever spoken to her yet she drives me insane with this confusion! i try to convince myself she may like me a little, but when i see myself and her friends, i think, why would she like me out of all her pretty friends? maybe shes just being nice to me? Thank you, chloe.


I’m confused by my dreams and if they mean that ...

I am 19 year old female, and I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I do not feel attracted to neither boys nor girls, but I am fine when I see two women involved in a sex relationship. When I think about men I do not feel like beign touched by them. All this things really uptset me, because I think that it is not supossed to be like that. Since I am 15 years old I have dreams having sex with boys and girls, but I can not see their faces; and I do not like these dreams because I do not want to dream like that, and most of the time I am scared to fall slept because of it. I do not know if all these dreams and the way a feel makes me a lesbian or bi. I would like to say, that I have never been involved in a relationship with any gender. I hope you can help me understand what is going on. Do I need a therapist ? if yes, please tell me where to call to. Thank you so much



My husband likes my boobs but seems gay

Is my husband gay or bi? My friends have always told me he is gay (including gay friends). When we started dating he never stopped talking about his gay friends. During the relationship he would always tell me how gay men were looking at him at the gym. He flirts with gay men at work and tells me it's only joking. He can spot a gay man a mile away and always looks at him. He knows all the gay sayings etc. He likes anal touching and anal sex with me. But he loves my body (boobs and all). I am so confused, please help. Once he told me he had been gay before we met and then said he was only joking. Do you think he is gay or bi. He said other gay men said he is attractive because he dresses well and looks after his appearance.


Why do I find men SO physically unappealing?

I am soon to be 45 and I am self-identified as a lesbian. The reason I have decided that I am a lesbian is because I don't like male biology---from the daily smegma accumulations, to the viscuous, invasive fluids, hard bodies, to the rather cold and analytical manner of relating to others which is governed by testosterone.. Don't get me wrong. I don't hate men. I just can't embrace our differences to like them romantically. My question is, and if you could give this answer more insight than you think I am asking for....; If you could tell me why heterosexual women like these (in my estimation) unappealing attributes.


I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure ...

I'm an 18yo girl who is very confused about her sexuality - I have gone from thinking I was straight, to gay, to bi and now I just don't know. Currently, I really really like this guy but I am not sexually attracted to him. At the same time, I really like this girl and I am sexually attracted to her. I have never found myself sexually attracted to guys, only girls, but my childhood crushes (until I was about 13) were all on guys. Also, this guy is the only guy I have ever really liked, as in, I think I could actually love him, I have otherwise lost interest in guys, but for some reason, I want them to like me and I sometimes get nervous when in close proximity to them. What does all this mean? This might be odd, but I actually want to be a lesbian, not bi or straight, but I'm not sure why. Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to both genders but sexually attracted to one? If this was true for me, am I still technically a lesbian (that's how I would prefer to identify)?



Am I asexual?

I have always been attracted to females I discover this when I was very young, probably around 6. But as I grew up, I noticed I would barely get attracted to them, like it takes a lot for me to get attracted to a woman, more than looks. Is it normal to feel this way? Is this lack of attraction normal? I'm 23 and I have had only 3 women in my life. Is that normal? Am I asexual?