Tag: attraction


I’m attracted to girls but I don’t know wether I’m ...

I am 16 and I have had mistook "admiration" as "crush" a lot of times when I was small... And now knows that the "boy" crushes(3 to be exact) I had was just mere admiration to be like them....(I want to be more masculine) and I recently realised that I am attracted to girls... and if I were to date someone(or marry someone in the far future) then that 'someone' would be a girl... I don't label myself as lesbian because I am still confused as I have never got a crush and neither do I understand what actually is a crush..(and I truly don't understand the "butterfly in stomach" feeling everyone talks about) and also nowadays I question myself like "what if I am lying to myself about being lesbian" "am I being like this just to be different from others?" and such questions are making me more and more confused. Please help! I can't understand whether I'm lesbian or not!!


Why does my college professor stare at me?

Why does my college professor stare at me? I'm a 22 year old med student and he's my 35 year old anatomy professor. Sometimes he's just sitting at his desk not even talking, while we're doing our work, and whenever I look at him he'll already be looking at me. He even stares at me until I look away. Now, I do find him attractive and I might've stared at him a couple of times because of that, but it was totally unconscious. What does this mean? I don't know if he's flirting with me or if he's just staring at me out of curiosity because he caught me staring at him too. I'm also a very shy girl so it was never my intention to let him know that I'm attracted to him. Now I'm kind of embarrassed.


It’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label ...

Are my feelings normal? What should I do? I don’t know if I can stand these feelings. I’m struggling a lot with my sexual orientation in recent years. Till 2 years ago, I found myself attracted to boys in my class, constantly trying to catch a glimpse of their butts or bulge. I also enjoyed gay porn, and loved looking at pictures of men in underwear. However, over the year, I began to look at straight porn, often in form of animations. My sexual feelings also changes, as I find myself aroused from watching straight porn. In fact, I suddenly find myself less attracted to guys, even though romantically, I still can’t imagine myself with a girl. Swimsuit models often give me semi-erection or outright hard on, while gay porn becomes dissatisfying. Though I usually have gay sexual fantasy, I sometimes imagine being a hot girl having sex with hot guys at school. Nowadays, I develop this deep worry that my gay feeling were fake, and nothing but a phase, which deeply troubles me since I feel so much more comfortable being gay or at least bi. I began to pay attention to how I conduct myself to see if I was “too straight” or “too gay”, trying to match my internal feelings. Contact with guys doesn’t seem to turn me on like it used to, even if I find them attractive. When I’m at my worst, I sometimes focusing excessively on gay guys and gay porn, trying to masturbate to them to confirm my emotions. Yet, I often ended up watching straight porn, and becoming more aroused by them. After each straight masturbation session, I feel bad for enjoying them - a feeling I never had with gay porn. Even when I tried quitting porn for an extensive period (usually a week or more), I find myself in the same situation. At this point, I don’t even know what to do anymore: I tried accepting my feelings, but my hetero side just doesn’t feel right. At the same time, it’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label as this point, seeing that it doesn’t reflect how my attraction is so confusing.





Is my teacher attracted to me?

Does my teacher like me or hate me ?lesbian? I'm a girl with short boyish hair but cute lol So there is that girl (my teacher) more like she is just teaching me an extra linguistics class She is still a student around my age (I'm 20) and she has also short hair like a Korean male hair cut?? so basically this corse was only one semester, she has treated me waaay different and when I told my friends they clearly told me that she is falling for me but I really don't get it .. read this and tell me does she hate or like me 1- I'm the only girl she remember her name. 2- she doesn't look at me directly or direct any orders or questions to me (avoid me) 3-but when I get too quite she suddenly says what about you ? She suddenly as me about my opinion when her and the other girls suddenly chat.. 4- she calls my name a lot 5-she knows my number "saved it" 6-I thought she hated me because she doesn't talk to me nor look at me while giving instructions to other girls she panics when I'm there..



Is she just being nice to me? I’m sure she’s ...

Hello, i just wanted to, well explain my problem becaume i have no one really to tell - scared of hatred of rejection. Im straight, and always have been, until this girl came into year 10, and ever since i'v been confused! Shes popular, pretty and basically a bad rebel. Shes obviously straight but its just the things she sometimes do that makes me wonder, she makes me so nervous as well. Every science she walks dead close to me when theres loads of space around her, i see her sometimes watching me in that lesson too. Past english she put her hands around my waist to get past, but she wouldnt, definitely wouldnt do that to other people. i've hardly ever spoken to her yet she drives me insane with this confusion! i try to convince myself she may like me a little, but when i see myself and her friends, i think, why would she like me out of all her pretty friends? maybe shes just being nice to me? Thank you, chloe.


Men: I’m attracted to everything above the waist only

I am somewhat confused at the moment. I have never considered myself a homosexual man, and I still don't. I have never had romantic feelings toward men, but have found myself attracted to them before. Like, I will see someone and find them attractive. However, I'm the same way with women. However, I have had romantic feelings towards them. I am in high school, and have had several crushes throughout my life. I've never actually had a girlfriend, but I'm still a freshman. I have found myself attracted to guys, but I don't want to see their dicks. What I have seen (from movies, porn, whatever) doesn't turn me on, and never has. However, I've been attracted to pretty much everything above the waist. Does that make sense? I'm seriously confused. Am I gay, bisexual, what? I don't feel romantically attracted to guys, but I don't mind when a pyschically fit guy is shirtless or whatever. I don't like the male penis, and would not get on my knees and suck it. I know that's...


My friend and i like each other but now her ...

When I moved here from California, I didn't have many friends because I was quiet and my now best friend, Victoria, was one of the first people to befriend me. Over the past few years i've been become attrcted to her as more than a friend. I had let her know and we talked about and she said that she had been having the same feelings. The problem is that I had confronted her too late. She now has a boyfriend whom she says she loves very much, and I know I should be happy for her, but everytime I get near her, her boyfriend starts getting really physical and won' even let me hug her. I want to stay friends with her, but it hurts me to be around her when he's there. And he's ALWAYS there, so I never get a second alone to talk to her. I've always liked boys, never girls, so his is really hard for me and I'm afraid if I tell her what I think of her bf, she'll be mad at me and I really don't want to lose her.



I’m confused by my dreams and if they mean that ...

I am 19 year old female, and I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I do not feel attracted to neither boys nor girls, but I am fine when I see two women involved in a sex relationship. When I think about men I do not feel like beign touched by them. All this things really uptset me, because I think that it is not supossed to be like that. Since I am 15 years old I have dreams having sex with boys and girls, but I can not see their faces; and I do not like these dreams because I do not want to dream like that, and most of the time I am scared to fall slept because of it. I do not know if all these dreams and the way a feel makes me a lesbian or bi. I would like to say, that I have never been involved in a relationship with any gender. I hope you can help me understand what is going on. Do I need a therapist ? if yes, please tell me where to call to. Thank you so much