Jill, where sorry it to us a long time to answer, we are all volunteers at AlterHeros, many summer activities in the local queer community, school and work have kept are team busy. We recently, for the first time, participated in Toronto’s community day event for 2005.
We can suggest you to contact the Rainbow ressource center, maybe they’ll be able to help you and give you some references in your area.
You can ask them if they have dedicated woman group, a great way to discuss what you are going through and meet like minded people.
Wishing you best of luck in finding what you wish and having a positive future relationship.