Maxime-iel


About Maxime-iel

Involved in 2SLGBTQIA+ community work for many years, Maxime keeps a special spot in their heart for queer youth. It's what made them start a bachelor's degree in sexology at UQAM. They're committed to improve inclusion and celebration of diversities, atypical trajectories and any and all who can't fit in a box. Recently they've gotten interested in mental health, self-care, the abolition of capitalism and getting some rest once in a while. Fervent rain enthusiast, their favorite colors are gray and rainbows.



I’m non-binary and I want to know my sexual orientation…

Hi. I would like to know about my sexuality. When I was younger, and people thought I was a girl, I had crushes on only boys. Now, looking back, I'm not sure if the crushes were real, or if soceity - (did I spell that right?) and my family- pressured me into wanting to fake crushes so I could fit in with my female cousins and classmates. looking back, there were enormous signs of my omnigender identity lying there, just being ignored. the way I wanted to hang out with my boy cousins more than my female ones, the times I played wearing both a princess dress and a fake mustache, and the way I was so upset the night my mom was telling my sister about gender indentities, and when I told my mom I was non-binary after hearing that term, she told me I wasn't, which might have been one of the worst nights of my life. but enough about my gender. I'm positive of it now and I want to know my orientation. Later, just after I came out, I started having crushes on girls. I was madly in love with my best friend for awhile, but now I'm shipping her with my other friend, so I'm really over her. By then, (and still now) I find straight white cis boys repulsive (and other boys pretty bad as well.) which was the exact type of guy I used to crush on (or maybe not?) but here's the weirdest part. I was so crazy about this kid (who told everyone he was non-binary at the time) that I sent him a message, telling him I liked him, then as soon as he said he was actually a boy, I lost complete intrest in him. crazy, I know. Do they have a sexuality fluid orientation? Did I make up all my crushes exept the last one, to be accepted? these questions flood my mind. please help. Minijkrowling




So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do ...

I have questioned my sexuality basically my entire life. I have always felt more attracted to women than men. But always dated men because it was considered "normal". My first kiss ever, was with a girl. My first sexual experience was with a girl. My best friend in middle school and I messed around a lot and spent just about every day with her. But when she finally wrote me a letter telling me how she felt towards me and that she wanted to be more than just my friend, It pissed me off. I was really mean to her and just stopped being friends with her altogether. For years, off and on I messed around with another one of my friends but convinced myself that we were just having fun. And Everytime she tried to make it more official, It would irritate me. Both of us, were off and on in relationships with men. Anytime I've been in a relationship with a guy, I've always struggled with letting go of the "gay thoughts". I'd always choose spending time around females than I would my boyfriend/partner. I've always been more comfortable around females than men. Everytime I was in a straight relationship with a guy, I always felt like I couldn't fully be myself. It wasn't until I finally decided to stop being in a straight relationship and started seeing a female. She was/is so pretty and funny and that was the first time in my entire life where I felt genuinely happy and completely myself. Being in straight relationships with men, It was very rare that I ever made the first move but being with her was completely different. I wanted to kiss her, hold her hand, literally just be next to her. But the thought of coming all the out was literally terrifying. I don't know why. I wanted to commit and ask her to be my girlfriend soo bad but I did the exact opposite. All the thoughts like, what Is my life going to look like being in a relationship with a female, what if this is just a phase for her, how are both of our kids gonna react, there was so many questions that spiked my anxiety to the point that I just ghosted her and went back to seeing men and made excuses and was kinda mean to her. I've always been more okay with public relationships with men but I struggled with them privately, being with a female is opposite. So is it normal to reject your sexuality? How do I become more comfortable with it? K.O.



My partner and I carry the oral herpes virus, but ...

Hi! I want to have unprotected oral sex with my partner, but we've both had cold sores before at some point in our life, therefore, we carry the oral herpes virus. I know that having oral sex during a herpes outbreak is an absolute no-no, but I was wondering, how high (or low) is the risk of giving my partner the genital herpes virus when I don't have any oral outbreaks (or vice versa) and we have unprotected oral sex? FYI: my partner and I are monogamous and long-term.





I’m having a bit of a gender crisis right now ...

I'm having a bit of a gender crisis right now. I use he/they pronouns, as they are what I identify with most, but I present female (wearing dresses, skirts, makeup etc.). I'm also comfortable with certain female terms (such as fangirl, queen, wife) but not others (specifically girlfriend or being referred to collectively as 'girls'). I'm AFAB and I'm wondering if there's a term for this? (If it is relevant, I believe I am attracted to all genders at varying degrees)



Does my teacher have a crush on me?

Does a teacher have a crush on me too? Why does he always look at me? Long story short, I had a teacher last year and I have a crush on him. Never planned on acting on it, but I got threatened to confess and I felt really scared and pressured so I wrote a note. Anyways he keeps looking at me and it's been happening a couple of months now. I thought it was because he hated me for what I've done, but wouldn't he want to ignore me and try to forget about me? What's weird was once after school, I was walking to my bus stop for art class and we were walking the same way. Since he's a fast walker, he walked in front of me, but he kept looking behind at me. He did it maybe 4 or 5 times. Another case was when I was talking to my friends one time after school and sort of just looked at my direction for a good 2 - 5 minutes. I didn't know he was there until my friend told me quietly and I tried to stay calm and continue talking. Whenever he walks past my roll call (basically everyday), instead of looking straight ahead to walk to his class, he would look into my roll call class and look at me. If we're still lining up as he walks past he would look still. It's not like 'I'm looking at him so that's why he's looking at me because it's not'. but many times I didn't look at him, my friends would tell me he was when he's gone. I honestly don't believe he has a crush on me, but some for my friends said there's a chance and now I'm just curious ALDA